Avoiding Repetition in the Bedroom

Have you ever felt stuck in a sexual routine, only relying on a set of tried-and-true techniques to please your partner? While these reliable moves are effective, they can become monotonous over time. According to Marianne Brandon, Ph. D., author of “Monogamy: The Untold Story,” even the best techniques can lose their spark. It’s beneficial to vary your approach, as novelty can enhance the experience, delay orgasm for a more intense climax, and boost bonding through increased dopamine levels, as noted by Yvonne Fulbright, Ph. D., author of “Touch Me Here.”

Exploring New Techniques

Experiment with these 17 methods to touch your partner’s vagina for maximum pleasure.

1. The Clitoral Hood

There’s a small flap of skin known as the clitoral hood that can be particularly sensitive. Before your partner is fully aroused, gently trace their inner labia upwards and stroke the hood above the clitoris with your fingertips, using lubricant for smoothness. When ready for direct contact, use your thumb to gently push the skin upward.

2. Understanding the G-Spot

The G-spot is an internal part of the clitoris, which extends inside the body. Use the “come-hither” motion by inserting a finger palm up, ensuring your partner is already aroused.

3. Outer Labia Stimulation

Begin with the less sensitive outer labia to ease your partner into arousal. Lightly cup their vagina to initiate blood flow and enhance arousal.

4. Mons Pubis Activation

Stimulate the mons pubis, a mound of fatty tissue above the pubic bone, to indirectly excite the clitoris. Use the heel of your hand to press downward towards the clitoris.

5. Lip Massage

Before venturing inside, focus on massaging the outer lips. Use long strokes without penetrating, then gently massage and tug the labia for heightened arousal.

6. Teasing the Clitoris

Apply lubricant and circle the clitoris with consistent pressure. Experiment with the direction and size of the circles per your partner’s feedback.

7. Cervical Contact

For partners who enjoy deep penetration, gently massage the cervix with your fingers, applying pressure based on their response.

8. Changing Positions

Switching positions can significantly impact sensation. Try different setups, like leaning against a wall or bending over a counter, to add variety.

9. Enhanced Fingering

Vary your fingering technique by using multiple fingers and focusing on the lower vaginal canal. Circular motions near the opening can heighten the sensation.

10. Rhythmic Clitoral Stimulation

Place your fingers on either side of the clitoris and move them rhythmically like playing a piano. Gradually increase the intensity by placing a finger directly on the clitoris.

11. Arm Grind

Have your partner sit on your inner arm, resting their vulva against your wrist and forearm, then match their grinding rhythm for a broader stimulation area.

12. Sweeping Vulva Strokes

Warm up your partner with long, sweeping hand strokes down the vulva, maintaining rhythm and consistency for maximum pleasure.

13. Opening for Access

Use one hand to spread the labia and the other to stimulate the clitoris, enhancing access and adding an element of vulnerability.

14. Panty Play

Leave your partner’s panties on to add friction and anticipation. Satin panties work best for sliding across sensitive areas.

15. Guided Exploration

Encourage your partner to guide your hand, showing what they enjoy, for personalized pleasure and learning.

16. Circular Clitoral Technique

Lightly pinch the clitoris and rub in a circular motion, ensuring stimulation from all angles for a powerful orgasm.

17. Vibrator Use

Incorporate a vibrator to enhance sensations. Use the vibrator on various parts of the vulva for diverse stimulation, complementing clitoral techniques with your free hand.