Understanding Intercrural Sex

Let’s clarify: sex doesn’t have to involve penetration to be considered sex. Enter intercrural sex, also known as “thigh sex.” This involves placing the penis between a partner’s thighs and thrusting for pleasure. While this practice dates back to Ancient Greek times, originally serving as a “loophole” for anal sex, it has evolved significantly. Today, there are various reasons people might opt for intercrural sex over anal or vaginal intercourse.

Benefits and Appeal

“To start, friction can feel amazing against a penis no matter where that friction is coming from,” says queer sex educator Gabrielle Kassel. Thighs provide a distinctive type of friction that can be thrilling for those used to other body parts like the butt, vagina, breasts, or armpit. “Both hairy and smooth-shaven thighs can offer a unique experience.”

For the best experience, Lee Phillips, Ed. D., a psychotherapist and certified sex and couple’s therapist, recommends using lube for increased comfort and a slippery sensation. Silicone or oil-based lubes are ideal to prevent friction and rashes.

Why Some Choose Intercrural Sex

Certain gay men avoid anal penetration due to discomfort, intensity, or concerns about hygiene. These individuals, referred to as “sides,” prefer activities like intercrural sex. Additionally, During a GI flare-up, someone might prefer intercrural sex over anal if they don’t feel comfortable as the receptive partner.

Women with vulvas might also opt for this method, particularly if they have conditions like endometriosis, fibroids, or have recently given birth, making vaginal penetration uncomfortable, notes Kassel.

Lower Risk of STIs

Compared to other sexual activities like oral, anal, or vaginal sex, intercrural sex carries a lower risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It has even been noted as a method to reduce HIV transmission, as the risk is virtually nonexistent without anal or vaginal penetration.

Exploring Intercrural Sex

If you’re new to intercrural sex, it can be an exciting addition to your sexual repertoire. Numerous positions can be explored, including missionary, spooning, doggy style, and cowgirl.

Once a position is chosen, the penis is positioned between the partner’s thighs. The partner then uses their thighs to grip the penis, ensuring it stays in place to create the necessary friction before thrusting.