Even if your queer sex life is at its peak (hello, multiple orgasms!), it’s normal to seek some variety. Luckily, there are more queer and lesbian sex positions than you can count at your average Pride parade.

Lesbian sex-and sex in general-encompasses any act or configuration that brings pleasure to one or more individuals who identify as lesbian or queer, says Rachel Wright, a licensed psychotherapist based in New York. “Sex can be any meaningful act of pleasure,” she emphasizes. Thus, a lesbian sex position is any position that appeals to someone who is lesbian or queer.

Despite this freedom, finding new and creative sex positions can still be challenging. So, here are 30 queer and lesbian positions, featuring tips from sex educators who specialize in working with queer individuals.

Position variations include options for fingering, oral sex, scissoring, strap-on play, anal stimulation, mutual masturbation, and more. Whether you’re lesbian, bisexual, queer, questioning, trans, cis, kinky, vanilla, solo, or partnered, you’re sure to find several positions that suit you.

Meet the Experts

Rachel Wright, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and podcast host specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Aleece Fosnight, MSPAS, PA-C, CSC-S, CSE, is a medical advisor specializing in sexual medicine, women’s health, and urology. Joy Berkheimer, PhD, LMFT, is a sex therapist and expert at a sexual wellness platform. Sarah Bellon, PT, DPT, CLT, is a pelvic floor physical therapist. Carol Queen, PhD, is a sexologist and sex educator. Evan Goldstein, DO, is a doctor specializing in anal care.

Exploring New Positions

External Fingering – Focus on clitoral pleasure by asking your partner how they prefer to be stimulated. Experiment with different techniques and use lubricant for enhanced sensations. If your partner enjoys penetration, consider adding vaginal fingering, targeting areas like the G-zone or A-zone.

G-Spot Stimulation – The receiver lies on their back while the giver uses two fingers to find and stimulate the G-spot.

Mutual Masturbation – Turn solo play into a shared experience, ideal for discussing desires and preferences. Arrange your bodies in a way that feels comfortable and enjoyable.

Spooning – This cozy position allows for external stimulation or penetration with a strap-on or dildo.

From-Behind Penetration – Ideal for those who enjoy rear-entry positions with fingers or toys.

Face-Sitting – The receiver straddles the giver’s face, controlling the angle and pressure of oral sex.

Reverse Face-Sitting – The receiver sits facing away from the giver, allowing access for additional stimulation.

69 Position – Both partners give and receive oral sex simultaneously, aligning head to toe.

Sideways 69 – A relaxed version of 69, perfect for different body sizes and mobility limitations.

Taint Stimulation – Use your tongue to stimulate the sensitive area between the anus and genitals.

The Plus One – Incorporate vibrators or suction toys into your play for added sensations.

The Lotus – One partner sits cross-legged while the other sits on their lap, allowing for intimate connection.

Chair Play – One partner sits while the other straddles them for face-to-face interaction.

Strap-On Missionary – Classic missionary position with a strap-on for face-to-face intimacy.

Rider on Top – The receiving partner controls the rhythm and depth of penetration.

The Side-Lying Lover – Ideal for those with mobility limitations or after surgery, allowing relaxation during penetration.

Strap-On Blow Job – Gender-affirming and visually stimulating, this involves oral pleasure on a strap-on.

Thigh Harness Play – Penetration using a thigh harness, suitable for those with mobility limitations.

Strapless Strap-On – Double-ended dildos provide mutual pleasure without a harness.

Double-Ended Hand Job – The non-wearing partner strokes the protruding dildo for shared pleasure.

Scissoring – Genital-to-genital contact provides intimate grinding sensations.

Side-by-Side Scissoring – Face-to-face variation for slow, intimate moments.

Anal Missionary – Beginner-friendly position for intimate anal play.

Rider on Top (Anal) – The receiving partner controls anal penetration.

Air Squat Rider – An intense variation with the receiving partner squatting above the giver.

Analingus – Explore the pleasure of oral stimulation around the anus.

Muffing – Involves gently stimulating the inguinal canal, suitable for trans women who enjoy penetrative sex.

These positions offer a wide array of choices for exploring pleasure and enhancing intimacy.

Introduction
Few things are more alluring than the sounds of pleasure during intimate moments. However, many wonder, “Why don’t I moan?” This guide offers insights on how to moan during sex and build confidence in doing so.

Understanding Sexual Moaning

Moaning during sex is a natural vocal expression, akin to talking dirty. If you’re typically quiet, that’s perfectly fine, but you might find yourself vocalizing more by the end of this guide.

Why Do People Moan?

• Sounds of Liking: Research indicates moaning can be interpreted as sounds of enjoyment, not just sexual signals.
• Physical Activity: Moaning can result from the physical exertion of sex, similar to sounds made during workouts.
• Pleasing Your Partner: Vocalizations during sex can please or guide a partner, with studies noting women often moan during penetration.
• Partner’s Orgasm: Some women moan most around their partner’s climax.
• Enhancing Satisfaction: Moaning may increase sexual satisfaction and interest in further activity.

Other Reasons for Moaning

• Media Influence: Media portrayals can shape perceptions of moaning.
• Partner Preference: Some moan because their partner enjoys it.
• Self-Stimulation: You might be aroused by your own moans.

Building Confidence in Moaning

If you’re self-conscious about moaning, try practicing alone first. This helps you discover your natural sounds. Gradually increase volume, starting from gentle moans.

Breathing Techniques

Focus on breathing to ease into moaning. Breathe into your partner’s ear or let your voice escape gently as you exhale. Experiment with closed-mouth sounds like “Mmm.”

Mindfulness and Body Awareness

Concentrate on how you feel rather than how you sound. Mindfulness enhances pleasure and cues natural moaning.

Role Play and Recording

Role-playing can help you explore different moaning styles. Recording yourself might provide insights into your natural sounds.

Types of Moans and Sounds

• Basic Moans: Simple, low sounds similar to those made by ghosts in stories.
• Guttural Sounds: Throat-based, often harsher moans that may occur during orgasm.
• Whimpering: High-pitched sounds indicating pleasure or desire.
• Squealing: High-pitched cries expressing intense pleasure.
• Crying: Emotional release during sex, sometimes accompanied by tears.
• Sighing and Gasping: Common during foreplay, sex, and unexpected sensations.

Rhythmic Moaning

Moaning can mirror sexual rhythms, adding to the experience. Combine it with dirty talk by using words like “Yes” or your partner’s name.

Busting Moaning Myths

• Entertainment vs. Reality: Porn often stages moans; real-life moans can be quieter and more authentic.
• Volume Control: Overly loud moans can seem fake. Quiet moans are equally alluring.
• Avoiding Pressure: Encouragement rather than coercion fosters a positive sexual experience.

Now equipped with these insights and tips, feel free to explore moaning in a way that enhances your and your partner’s pleasure. Don’t hesitate to experiment and find what feels right for you.

Understanding my unique masturbation habit and its impact on my sex life has been a journey. I began with what is known as ‘prone masturbation’ at a young age. While it brings me pleasure, it’s challenging to adjust to more conventional methods. This makes partnered sex less satisfying and increases my anxiety about how others might perceive my preferences.

What is Prone Masturbation?

For those unfamiliar, prone masturbation involves lying face down on the chest and stomach. This method often includes rubbing the penis against surfaces like sheets, pillows, or clothing. Some may also thrust into their hand while cupping the penis and testicles.

Though research is limited, studies suggest that prone masturbation can lead to issues such as erectile dysfunction, delayed orgasm, or even an inability to orgasm. This is likely due to the intense pressure applied, which is absent in oral sex, traditional penetrative sex, or other masturbation techniques.

Changing Habits for Better Sexual Health

The advice might not be pleasant, but it’s important to stop this type of masturbation. Initially, it’s recommended to cease all forms of masturbation for a week or two, allowing your body to reset.

After this break, try masturbating while sitting upright. It may be difficult to maintain an erection or climax at first, and that’s okay. Patience and perseverance are key. Avoid using excessive force, as this defeats the purpose of reducing dependency on pressure for orgasm.

Developing New Techniques

With time and practice, it’s possible to enjoy regular masturbation positions. Once comfortable, reintroducing sex with partners can follow. It’s common to feel anxious, but many people experience similar feelings. Communicating openly with a partner about your struggles can ease this anxiety. Most people are understanding, and if they’re not, they might not be the right partner for you.

Seeking Professional Help

If after a few months you still find difficulty in transitioning to new techniques, consulting a sex therapist could be beneficial. They can help explore any deeper issues and provide guidance tailored to your needs.

Remember, the calmer you remain, and the less pressure you apply to yourself, the more likely you are to overcome these challenges and enhance your sexual experiences.