When we think of aphrodisiacs, typical choices like oysters, chocolate, and chili peppers come to mind. But have you considered fear as an option? According to a survey by Grindr in October 2025, 82 percent of users reported feeling aroused by the thrill of horror movies or haunted houses. Interestingly, the top films that both scared and aroused viewers were Interview with the Vampire, American Psycho, and Jennifer’s Body, all featuring attractive leads.
It seems surprising to suggest that fear can be a turn-on and that a horror movie might not only scare you but also excite you. However, fear can indeed lead to sexual arousal, a phenomenon humorously termed “scarousal” (scary arousal).
The Science Behind Scarousal
When fear strikes, the sympathetic nervous system kicks in, triggering a “fight or flight” response. “This increases our heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration,” explains Dr. Justin Lehmiller, Ph. D., senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute. “This physiological state parallels how our bodies feel when sexually excited. Sometimes, our brains may mistake fear for sexual arousal, which might explain why some people report feeling turned on during frightening experiences.”
This concept, known as “the misattribution of arousal,” has been well documented in scientific circles. The renowned 1974 Dutton and Aron study showed that men crossing a high, shaky bridge were more inclined to contact an “attractive female interviewer” afterward, likely confusing their physiological arousal with sexual attraction.
Understanding and Embracing Scarousal
The intersection of fear and arousal can be perplexing for many. Some individuals may feel ashamed of their bodies’ sexual response during stressful or overwhelming moments. Lee Phillips, Ed. D., LSCW, a psychotherapist and sex therapist, explains that scarousal is a physiological reflex, not a moral judgment. “The body’s threat-arousal and sexual-arousal systems share overlapping neural pathways, meaning the body might respond to intensity even when the mind is distressed.”
To address sexual shame, Phillips suggests separating interpretation from sensation. Education on why scarousal occurs normalizes this biological response. “Many are surprised to learn that there’s often a disconnect between physical arousal and subjective desire,” Phillips notes. “Understanding this helps individuals shift from self-judgment to curiosity.”
Phillips guides clients toward reintroducing controlled elements of intensity that naturally induce fear through consensual role-play and other activities. This could involve scenarios like an “intruder” role-play or milder forms of BDSM, such as erotic spanking, which can trigger similar physiological responses that lead to arousal.
Managing Scarousal Responsibly
Intentionality is crucial: “You’re choosing the activation rather than being caught off-guard by it,” Phillips says. For instance, watching a scary movie on a date night can activate your arousal system before intimacy with your partner.
While scarousal can enhance sexual experiences, it’s important to avoid taking it too far. Some individuals might seek increasingly intense stimuli, such as public sex in risky locations, driven by the amplified sexual response from fear. “Those who consistently put themselves in danger for this reason should be concerned about their overall well-being,” warns Lehmiller.
Fortunately, the majority enjoy a balance, gravitating toward scary movies for a Netflix and chill session. Phillips adds, “When integrated thoughtfully, scarousal can enrich a person’s sexual landscape, leading to increased passion, deeper erotic vulnerability, and more creative sexual communication.”
Instead of fearing their reactions, individuals learn to embrace them, turning involuntary responses into opportunities for exploration and closeness. “Scarousal becomes a doorway to more authentic desire and expressive intimacy,” Phillips concludes.
Ultimately, What’s truly frightening is denying oneself a fulfilling sexual life.