Understanding my unique masturbation habit and its impact on my sex life has been a journey. I began with what is known as ‘prone masturbation’ at a young age. While it brings me pleasure, it’s challenging to adjust to more conventional methods. This makes partnered sex less satisfying and increases my anxiety about how others might perceive my preferences.

What is Prone Masturbation?

For those unfamiliar, prone masturbation involves lying face down on the chest and stomach. This method often includes rubbing the penis against surfaces like sheets, pillows, or clothing. Some may also thrust into their hand while cupping the penis and testicles.

Though research is limited, studies suggest that prone masturbation can lead to issues such as erectile dysfunction, delayed orgasm, or even an inability to orgasm. This is likely due to the intense pressure applied, which is absent in oral sex, traditional penetrative sex, or other masturbation techniques.

Changing Habits for Better Sexual Health

The advice might not be pleasant, but it’s important to stop this type of masturbation. Initially, it’s recommended to cease all forms of masturbation for a week or two, allowing your body to reset.

After this break, try masturbating while sitting upright. It may be difficult to maintain an erection or climax at first, and that’s okay. Patience and perseverance are key. Avoid using excessive force, as this defeats the purpose of reducing dependency on pressure for orgasm.

Developing New Techniques

With time and practice, it’s possible to enjoy regular masturbation positions. Once comfortable, reintroducing sex with partners can follow. It’s common to feel anxious, but many people experience similar feelings. Communicating openly with a partner about your struggles can ease this anxiety. Most people are understanding, and if they’re not, they might not be the right partner for you.

Seeking Professional Help

If after a few months you still find difficulty in transitioning to new techniques, consulting a sex therapist could be beneficial. They can help explore any deeper issues and provide guidance tailored to your needs.

Remember, the calmer you remain, and the less pressure you apply to yourself, the more likely you are to overcome these challenges and enhance your sexual experiences.