Even if your queer sex life is at its peak (hello, multiple orgasms!), it’s normal to seek some variety. Luckily, there are more queer and lesbian sex positions than you can count at your average Pride parade.
Lesbian sex-and sex in general-encompasses any act or configuration that brings pleasure to one or more individuals who identify as lesbian or queer, says Rachel Wright, a licensed psychotherapist based in New York. “Sex can be any meaningful act of pleasure,” she emphasizes. Thus, a lesbian sex position is any position that appeals to someone who is lesbian or queer.
Despite this freedom, finding new and creative sex positions can still be challenging. So, here are 30 queer and lesbian positions, featuring tips from sex educators who specialize in working with queer individuals.
Position variations include options for fingering, oral sex, scissoring, strap-on play, anal stimulation, mutual masturbation, and more. Whether you’re lesbian, bisexual, queer, questioning, trans, cis, kinky, vanilla, solo, or partnered, you’re sure to find several positions that suit you.
Meet the Experts
Rachel Wright, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and podcast host specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Aleece Fosnight, MSPAS, PA-C, CSC-S, CSE, is a medical advisor specializing in sexual medicine, women’s health, and urology. Joy Berkheimer, PhD, LMFT, is a sex therapist and expert at a sexual wellness platform. Sarah Bellon, PT, DPT, CLT, is a pelvic floor physical therapist. Carol Queen, PhD, is a sexologist and sex educator. Evan Goldstein, DO, is a doctor specializing in anal care.
Exploring New Positions
External Fingering – Focus on clitoral pleasure by asking your partner how they prefer to be stimulated. Experiment with different techniques and use lubricant for enhanced sensations. If your partner enjoys penetration, consider adding vaginal fingering, targeting areas like the G-zone or A-zone.
G-Spot Stimulation – The receiver lies on their back while the giver uses two fingers to find and stimulate the G-spot.
Mutual Masturbation – Turn solo play into a shared experience, ideal for discussing desires and preferences. Arrange your bodies in a way that feels comfortable and enjoyable.
Spooning – This cozy position allows for external stimulation or penetration with a strap-on or dildo.
From-Behind Penetration – Ideal for those who enjoy rear-entry positions with fingers or toys.
Face-Sitting – The receiver straddles the giver’s face, controlling the angle and pressure of oral sex.
Reverse Face-Sitting – The receiver sits facing away from the giver, allowing access for additional stimulation.
69 Position – Both partners give and receive oral sex simultaneously, aligning head to toe.
Sideways 69 – A relaxed version of 69, perfect for different body sizes and mobility limitations.
Taint Stimulation – Use your tongue to stimulate the sensitive area between the anus and genitals.
The Plus One – Incorporate vibrators or suction toys into your play for added sensations.
The Lotus – One partner sits cross-legged while the other sits on their lap, allowing for intimate connection.
Chair Play – One partner sits while the other straddles them for face-to-face interaction.
Strap-On Missionary – Classic missionary position with a strap-on for face-to-face intimacy.
Rider on Top – The receiving partner controls the rhythm and depth of penetration.
The Side-Lying Lover – Ideal for those with mobility limitations or after surgery, allowing relaxation during penetration.
Strap-On Blow Job – Gender-affirming and visually stimulating, this involves oral pleasure on a strap-on.
Thigh Harness Play – Penetration using a thigh harness, suitable for those with mobility limitations.
Strapless Strap-On – Double-ended dildos provide mutual pleasure without a harness.
Double-Ended Hand Job – The non-wearing partner strokes the protruding dildo for shared pleasure.
Scissoring – Genital-to-genital contact provides intimate grinding sensations.
Side-by-Side Scissoring – Face-to-face variation for slow, intimate moments.
Anal Missionary – Beginner-friendly position for intimate anal play.
Rider on Top (Anal) – The receiving partner controls anal penetration.
Air Squat Rider – An intense variation with the receiving partner squatting above the giver.
Analingus – Explore the pleasure of oral stimulation around the anus.
Muffing – Involves gently stimulating the inguinal canal, suitable for trans women who enjoy penetrative sex.
These positions offer a wide array of choices for exploring pleasure and enhancing intimacy.